How Exploring My Saucy Side Unlocked Confidence in Business and the Bedroom

I’m sitting in the airport—delayed flight—waiting to head to ADL for the most epic business thing everrrrr, and just soaking it all in.

Truth be told, I don’t hate being in an airport. My dad’s a pilot, so I actually spent a lot of time growing up around planes, terminals, and tarmacs. Delays are basically ingrained in my nervous system at this point.

As I’m sitting here—people watching (because I adore that)—I’m just drinking it all in.

There’s a guy on the phone with his wife, saying the nicest things to her, with such a calm and kind tone I was like, woahhh... man, that’s amazing. Then you’ve got someone nervously pacing and another person announcing—a little too loudly—that they’ve already popped their Valium and are hoping it kicks in at the right time.

People watching is the best. Observing how everyone else moves through the world is my idea of heaven. It’s an underrated art form, in my opinion.

Also, the fact I’m sitting here—excited as hell for a cool AF work trip, babes taken care of, Kindle loaded with potential—has me feeling both giddy and grounded.

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When I was in high school (clearly I’m pulling inspo from that era lately, given how much I’ve been posting about rewriting your conditioning and untangling religious messaging around sex ed), I remember choosing my HSC English essay topics like it was the most important decision of my life.

You know how you pre-write them ahead of the exam so you can roll in with your thoughts mapped out? Yeah. That was me. Nerd to the core. Still am. Learning lights me up.

One of my essays was on airports—the coming and going of people, the energy of hope, uncertainty, sadness, longing. I loved the metaphor of it all.

The other?

Fifty Shades of Grey.
Ehhh… what now?

I remember handing in a rough draft to my English tutor—a conservative older gentleman—and he looked at me like, “Is this really what you want to write about?”

Yep.
It was.
And it still is.

He was one of those passionate about English tutors who clearly could see the topic was interesting for me and it showed in my writing, heapppppps more detail and a far more compelling read.

My take on Fifty Shades was different to my peers. I thought it was empowering—not demeaning or suppressive. Not everyone agreed.

I loved that at first glance, it looked like she’d lost all control, like she was being punished or pushed too far. But when you actually sat with it—when you analysed how many times she was given choice and agency—you saw just how powerful that dynamic could be.

Don’t get me wrong—the writing is absolute garbage. Grammatically painful, structurally meh. But the concept of a woman exploring her pleasure, power, and control in the bedroom? That was stunning.

I adored that.

Still do.

Which is why I write about sex. Why I coach women on relationships, bedroom confidence, and the conditioning we carry around desire.

I love analysing dynamics. I love showing high-achieving women what’s possible when they stop seeing their sensuality as a weakness and start treating it as a source of power, creativity, and self-expression.

So if something in here hit you square in the chest, if something whispered “that’s me”...

💌 Book a call ASAP and let’s chat about how we can work together.
At your pace.
With your nervous system in mind.
Peeling back the layers so you feel powerful, not pressured.

You already know how to be a boss.
Let’s help you feel that same confidence in the bedroom—so it flows into everything else.